Kiss of Communication: The term “Kiss” dominating the statement (Keep it short and specific).
After getting old and experienced in life, I came across this title “Kiss of Communication (Kiss: Keep it short & specific)” that can surely help others to make significant and positive change in their communication. It costs nothing but need some understanding and analysis of two things:
How you communicate?
How should you communicate?
At first, we’re going through with some common ways of communication, it will give us an opinion about the common mistake of communication that we usually do in our regular conversation. However, each statement here is representing my thoughts, you may agree or disagree with any argument.
One of the major mistakes that people make is assuming that the communication is all about speaking fluently without any grammatical mistakes, that’s correct, but it’s not enough because communication skills are not specified for any particular language. No matter what language you know, but the matter is how you convey your words.
Let’s have a view on some gibberish styles of communication:
1- Deflected Communication:
The deflected communication reflects the conversation that’s ambiguous. Personally, I believe communication must straight forward so we can receive clear respond in return, but sometimes straight forward statements in communication can consider as impolite communication. So, the communication must tend towards its origin with the clear meaning of what you’re saying.
2- Restrained Communication:
In addition to have more specific communication, it would be better to restrain yourself with the subject of your communication. Don’t stretch your communication with unnecessary stuff, else people will stop listening to you, if they felt their time is wasting.
3- Distracted Communication:
Communication becomes in form along with a bundle of statements in which each word you used is equally important with its significant meaning. It is important to understand that a single word of a statement might miss-lead someone or can be a reason to create a wrong impression about you. This becomes more important when your targeted listener is not so mature. However, the only solution to prevent this case is to taste your words before spit them out.
4- Behavioral Communication:
I am calling this behavioral communication, although it would not be new to sound for you. It is the type of communication that often come through the behavioral states. Like aggressive or emotional communication.
May at this moment you’ll be thinking what’s wrong with this behavioral communication. Perhaps it utmost important to realize not every statement comes through behavioral communication should consider as true; It’s because many people are not willing to control their words when talking with aggressive or emotional attitude. It causes them to throw the words against of their actual intentions.
5- Referenced Communication:
In other words, I would like to call this indirect communication that often you experience in life when someone talks with you on behalf of another person. Although nothing is bad in this, it should only follow when really needed. However, we should neglect to discuss indirect or referenced communication, until we know the real background or concept behind that.
That’s what I collected in my communication experience, but the story doesn’t end here. There are a lot of other stuff you may discover yourself about communication mistakes. Just realize how people respond or behave with you when you communicate with them. For instance, if you notice you’re being isolated, then there might be several reasons behind it where you should start to think about your communication style that is your first impression and expression to others.